Dating Made Simple. Don't Believe Me? Ha! Yeah.

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I have in my pocket five questions you should ask someone before you start dating them. I hope the questions I found inside my fortune cookie come in handy for you.

Here are the questions:

1. What are their core values/beliefs? (Including religion)

2. How is their soul?

3. What is their biggest insecurity?

4. What is their love language?

If you're thinking:

"Hey, Grace! This is great. I already know these things." Cool. You can keep reading or go back to watching Facebook videos.

If you're thinking:

"I know this, and I have new findings I would love to share with you." EMAIL ME. I love learning about love!

If you're thinking:

"Woah, why number two? What's a love language? etc." Keep reading.

1. Why do you need to know what their core values/religious beliefs are? If you don't have similar beliefs, that doesn't mean you aren't right for each other, but it does mean you might have problems in the future. Unless you never talk about your beliefs or never let the differences bother you.

You can learn how to avoid future issues, or figure out how to grow together if you have an understanding of each other's values in the beginning.

2. You want to know if their soul is healthy. This means a person practices healthy mental behavior. A person who knows you are not there to fix them is an example of a healthy soul. You cannot change anyone's soul. It is not your responsibility. Everyone has their own internal issues. That's okay! You can't change each other, but you can help each other heal. It's not hard to learn how to work together and build each other up if you communicate. Which is a perfect segway into point number...

3. What is their biggest insecurity? Insecurities are sometimes what dictate our decisions. If you know what their biggest insecurity is, you will understand their behavior and how to respond to it.

4. KNOWING THEIR LOVE LANGUAGE. Showing someone love in the way they want to receive love will help alleviate their insecurities.

If you're wondering what love languages are, here is a list: acts of service, words of affirmation, physical touch, gift giving, and quality time.

If you're thinking, "But how do I find these things out about someone when I don't even know these things about myself?"

Here are some suggestions as to how you can learn more about yourself:

1. Take time to be alone.

2. Pay attention to your passions and pursue them.

3. Pay attention to your habits to understand why you have them.

4. A good way to observe yourself outside of yourself is by meditating. The app, Aura, provides easy, three-minute meditations. (It's great for beginners.)

And if you want to know more about love languages or find out what your love language is, you can take the love language test by clicking here.

Oh, your tea is done! I hope you like Cold Hard Facts. It's a new flavor.